Wednesday, July 15, 2009

The grass always looks greener on the other side

This is Vivian - Very happy - can you tell why?????? - Does she look different???

Need help? - Her hair is straight!

ya see, Vivian has this obsession with straight hair - go figure! a girl with curly hair wanting to have straight hair? - been there, done that! - but i don't think I was 4 1/2 years old when I was wishing different hair. I do believe I was about 13 when I discovered the "crimper" that also doubled as a flat iron. I too, used to wish for soft, straight, "easy" - wake up in the morning hair that didn't stick out all over. - but instead, I was blessed with the curls as a child, and the waves as a teen, and bad hair days have always been a battle.

Vivian has caught the straight hair bug because she got a feel of how soft and straight Gwen, my sister-in-law's hair is. Not a wave in it! - and Vivian loves it. She sits next to Gwen and runs her fingers through her hair often. The other day, I straightened Vivian's hair for her so she could see what she would look like. - the next day before she went to the sitter's, she asked if I would straighten it again.... Sharon said all day long Vivian brushed her hair and looked in the mirror. Then that night when we went to bed, Vivian planned ahead for the next day's birthday party -"mom, before we go to the party, will you straighten my hair again?"

I have created a Monster!

I tell her she looks beautiful either way - but that I miss her wonderful curls. I also told her we would not be straightening her hair daily - it would ruin her hair, but that if she wanted to do it for special occasions, I would.
I have a feeling this is just how my girlie girl is going to roll! this is a 4 year old who changes her outfit 3 to 4 times a day, loves make-up, is very particular about her shoes, and doesn't go a day without her nails painted.
I think I would rather have it this way, than to fight with her all the time about looking decent before we go into public -
In my experience I have seen straight haired girls pay a lot of money for the curls Vivian comes by naturally (hello perms), But I can totally remember wishing away my curls while spending hours straightening them out. eventually she will find that the grass isn't necessarily greener, and she will learn to embrace (or at least deal) her beautiful curls. - you know, someday when she is a mom and has no time to fool around with crappy hair!


~Thought's By Dena~ said...

she is so adorable curls or no curls....I only have boys over here but I bet she is just going thru a girly phase....and you are right there are women that would pay anything for curls like that!!!!!!

CynthiaK said...

What beautiful hair she has. Curls or not, it's gorgeous!

Growing up, I was cursed (and still am) with half-straight, half-wavy hair. Like, what's with that? So, the flat iron gets a good workout with my locks and I used lots and lots of conditioner!

Jennifer W said...

So many people tell me that Lindsey will dislike her curls someday. And I always answer that if she had straight hair she would want curls...we are raising opinionated girls, thank God.

Jen said...

isn't that always the way that it is. when your hair is straight you want curly and visa versa.
But you are right about one thing, she is beautiful either way.

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

Oh, I LOVE The curls! Justin has long hair and it is very curly and thick which is gorgeous but SUCH A PAIN. Hey, if curly hair is her only gripe as a teenager, you'll be doing well.

Momma@Live. Laugh. Pull your hair out said...

Ooooo I love the curls! I myself have curly hair but some days wish for straight hair. Us females can never be happy!